Everybody loves a happy ending whether it’s a tear jerking love story or a fairytale inside a mystical realm filled with amazing creatures. Now I believe we need these escapes and in their own way they remind us that there are always thousands of great possibilities just beyond our reach, but if we stretch we can reach them.
Happiness like success takes work and everybody sees happiness differently. My happiness is really quite boring I think for most people. I no longer just hop on a plane just because I can or walk into BestBuy think cool its shiny and buy it. I no longer just do whatever I want because I can, but I am happy. My boring life involves work and home for the most part, but that is my comfort zone. Watching the Wiggles and Go Diego Go have become a big part of my life, cuddling on the couch and burning a chicken supper and telling everyone its BBQ flavor is also a big part of my life.
Realize that my little piece of happiness didn’t just happen. I worked hard for it and searched the world trying to discover what makes me happy. Like most people there were tears and heart break and at my low points a lot of confusion. I think that for all us, except a few select few, that is what the pursuit of happiness looks like. We kiss a lot of frogs on our journey and eventually we find what we need to be happy then we work our ass off keeping it because we know that its unique.
People being people leads some to only see the other side of the fence and think wow it’s so much greener without realizing that their neighbors water it every day. The question they should ask is why am I not watering my grass? Lately I have noticed that select people seem to be annoyed over my little bit of happiness. Yes I usually add my family life into most conversations. That is a big part of my life. Bigger than work, TV and even my novels because I have worked lots of jobs that didn’t make me happier or add much to my life other than a pay check. If I lost this job I could easily find a new one and my life would go on. I will always have thrilling ideas for novels and whether I write one great book or not I still see it as a hobby so my life will always go on, but my family is always what brings me the best joy in life.
To anybody who looks over the fence and sees greener grass all I can say is, don’t get jealous or complain how much better the grass looks on my side, fix your own lawn. If you want happiness find it, work for it and enjoy it. It’s not easy because being happy is a hell of a lot of work. Not just finding it, but keeping it. I see a lot of people who seem to look around and automatically think it came easy to them like their neighbors life was a gift from god. Ok if you believe in any god you have a right to think that it’s a gift from god but what happens in the end and any memories are made from work.
I come from a long line of red necks. I mean moonshine and long beard red necks. We all grew up on the same little dirt road and went to the same schools. So basically we all started out at the same place with the same opportunities. I have a cousin that is happily married and a nurse. Another that is a teacher and a lesbian that works at a bible college. With the exception of one brilliantly intelligent cousin (The teacher of course) there is nothing really special about them. I always thought they had it so much easier than me. Some even had it harder but they worked harder and found their happiness. On the other side of that same coin, I have cousins that are really smart and look like they could be models who are never happy and hate everyone around them who is happy.
Things that life has taught me is that I am in charge of my happiness. If I choose to see the world around me as dark and gloomy, it will be. Nobody can make my life happy. They can add to it, share it and even be there when I need to be cheered up, but nobody can be responsible for truly making me happy. I can be happier because they are in my life but they cannot be my only source of happiness. Family is, and I think will always be, a double edged sword because most of the time they will bring joy to your life, sometimes they will annoy you like no other and there will even be times when you understand why some species eat their young. On the flip side, they can be the greatest joy to your life, but not for everyone. Some people are content to live without family, but I found my happiness.
My happiness didn’t come easily, it took a lot of work to get to where I am. It’s not a gift and it’s certainly not easy but it’s always possible. I think that we need to like who we are and be happy with who we see in the mirror then we can start living a happy life, but true happiness is and probably should be a lot of work. Then you can enjoy what you get when you have it. However, you have to find the happiness you want, work for it and find happiness in the things you can’t control.